Spice up your Sex Life with your Phone

We all know that most of us are on our phones a lot of the time… I, for one, am constantly shocked and a little embarrassed by my Weekly Report of usage. We just love being on our phones! And with an endless list of apps available for absolutely everything, from tracking the moon phases to discovering new recipes, your phone becomes an endless entertainment vehicle.

A recent survey conducted by SellCell in the U.S. showed just how much our smartphone addiction is impacting our relationships. They found that 71% of people spend more time on their phones than with their romantic partners, and 52% reported spending an additional 3-4 hours daily on their phones rather than engaging with their loved ones. Even more surprising, 17% of women admitted to checking their phones during intimate moments! Ouch… So with all this data in mind, why not use the power of your phone to unlock deeper connection, passion, and spontaneity with your partner?
Instead of mindless scrolling, use your phone to spice things up in your relationship with some sexy game apps. Whether you’re rekindling that initial spark or trying to build something fresh, there are apps designed to boost your connection, communication, and yes, your sex life. Check out some of the best apps to turn your phone time into pleasure time!

1. Desire – Turn dares into desire.
Desire adds a playful twist to your relationship with a series of creative, romantic, and spicy dares that you and your partner can complete together. With points, chili-levels, and trophies to unlock, Desire turns intimacy into a fun game where everyone’s a winner! Plus, it comes with private chats, love notes (eLoves), and a journal to document all your memorable moments.

Best for: Couples looking to gamify their relationship and keep things spicy in a fun, lighthearted way.

2. Spicer – Discover new possibilities together.
Spicer takes the guesswork out of exploring new ideas with your partner. Answer fun and daring questions like “Yes,” “Maybe,” or “No,” and the app matches you on the ideas you both want to try! With customizable question packs and features like challenges, dares, and a calendar to track your sex life, Spicer is all about deepening intimacy and shaking up routine in a playful way.

Best for: Couples curious about trying new things and building trust through open communication.

3. Lovify – More than just sexy games.
Lovify offers over 800 questions to spark conversation, laughter, and deeper connection. From fun topics like food and travel to more intimate ones, this app gives couples the perfect opportunity to reconnect or discover new things about each other. It’s not all about sex—it’s about getting to know your partner in every way, while having a blast doing it.

Best for: Couples looking for fun, meaningful ways to bond beyond the bedroom.

4. Paired – Scientifically-backed connection.
Paired isn’t just about sex—it’s about building the foundation of a healthy, long-lasting relationship. With daily conversations, expert-led journeys, and quizzes, Paired helps you communicate better and connect on a deeper level. Think of it as your relationship coach in your pocket. And if you’re looking to improve your emotional intimacy, Paired is your go-to.

Best for: Couples who want to strengthen their overall relationship while keeping things fresh and fun.

With these couple apps in your pocket, you can turn phone time into quality time with your partner. Whether you’re looking for new adventures or simply want to grow closer to your significant other, there’s something for everyone. So put your phone addiction to good use—your relationship will thank you!

 

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